Benjamin Franklin was one of the Founding Fathers of the United States. He is sometimes called The First American. He invented many useful things, for example, bifocal spectacles and the lightning rod. He was an intellectual giant and a great humanitarian.
This advice isn't politically correct these days - but I can't find anything wrong with it. He seems to echo of Alfred Adler's monumental essay "Marriage as a Task" - of course the echo can't anticipate the thunder, so a better way of putting it is Great Minds Think Alike.
Let me contribute another reason::
9. A young woman wants romance, an older woman wants gratification. A young man who only courts inexperienced girls is unlikely to know how to please a woman. He knows the theory but not the practice: he's read the manual, of course, insert knob A in hole B, etc., but no manual can teach you how to ride a bicycle. He is impatient, his desire is an emergency, he spends too soon and then loses interest. Porn has misled him into thinking sex is a strenuous sport, like tae-kwon-do.
Time is of the essence: a woman's passion inflates slowly like a balloon in her belly. And when she is fully inflated then she needs a reliable prick. The hair-triggered boy who shoots at first sight of the quarry is no use to her. An older woman will coach a young man how to first rouse and then to satisfy her. She's won't waste the opportunity for want of a few instructions. .
It seems to the inexperienced male that there are very few mature women willing to have sex. The world is, in fact, full of women who would be delighted to have sex with any discreet, respectable man. Chance would be a fine thing, is what they're all thinking. Given the right circumstances, they'd do it at the drop of a hat. What stops them is the near impossibility of finding that safe opportunity, free from fear of disclosure and disgrace. Also they are ashamed of their bodily imperfections - they think if they first lose a little weight, perhaps then they might......
There's a device in theatrical farces in which a young man tiptoes to his mistress' bed in the dead of the night and finds a surprisingly passionate and competent welcome. Then he discovers he's with the wrong lady - her mother, maybe. Many affairs get under way by accident: a misunderstanding occurs and, to the man's surprise, he finds the lady is not only willing but eager.
So, if you're still reading, young man, it would be wrong to lead you this far up the garden path without telling you how to find the rose-bed and avoid falling into the compost heap. Find a suitable candidate as the object of your fleshly lust. Perhaps she works in your office or in the local bookstore, or perhaps she lives conveniently close, up the lane.. A polite chat will reveal whether there's already a man in her life. Don't compete with another man: it's unfair to him, undignified and possibly dangerous.
When you make your approach it's best to be cautious. A direct request can work, but she might be affronted by it and tell all her friends - which might yield a windfall of dividends from unexpected sources, but you can't count on that.. Proceed in stages of intimacy. You can ask for her "advice". Where's the harm in a little intimate chat and a cup of tea? And, as the Frenchman said, to talk about love is to make love.
If, at any time, you think you're in with a chance, then be brave. Many have failed because they let the moment pass. You must try to close the sale as soon as you see any sign of consideration.. Many a novice has talked his way out of a deal by giving the mark too much time to think of the consequences.
You can test her willingness by taking courteous little liberties with her person.. Something subtle, no clumsy ass-grabbing that might get you into trouble. Touch her hand maybe to emphasise a point. And keep on talking. Stroke between her knuckles in an absent-minded sort of way, itt might make her feel she would enjoy similar attention elsewhere. . And keep on talking.
The transition from acquaintance to lover is the hurdle you have to leap. Frontal assault is risky, a kiss may be too obvious - in the RAF we used to call it "an application at headquarters for a job at base". Convince her of your discretion and your admiration. Make it easy for her to acquiesce. .She will be more comfortable if you give her a little time to prepare herself. Say, with all the aplomb you can muster, "Why don't you go and slip into bed now: I'll be with you in ten minutes."
Portraits of 18th Century American Women are by Henry Benbridge (1743-1812)
The Charicature of Franklin is modern - by Dennis Pfeil :